Ok. I’ve got a major bone to pick.

And it’s about the way people are talking about self-care.

Sure, as a natural health practitioner I’m thrilled that self-care has gained so much popularity in recent years.

Not only does this bring more enthusiastic patients through my doors, it also means people are starting to take more responsibility for how they feel.

And that’s awesome.

But the vast majority of people talking about it are completely missing the point.

If you search #selfcare on Instagram you might leave thinking that getting manicures and taking curated bubble baths with floating flowers will do the trick.

And don’t get me wrong.

If they make you feel good and give you a moment of solace amidst the hustle-and-bustle of everyday life as a mama, sure, by all means! Go get that manicure and take that bubble bath.

But the point of self-care isn’t just about spending money on indulgences.

At its core, self-care is about having your primal needs met.

This basically means you have to treat yourself as you would a toddler:

Make sure you get enough sleep.

Eat your veggies.

Have healthy snacks on hand when you need them.

Get some exercise, fresh air, and spend time in nature.

Nurture your support-network.

Check in with yourself when you’re grumpy or stressed or anxious and figure out what’s behind those big feelings.

Ask for help before you really need it.

Because self-care isn’t just an indulgence. It’s a discipline and responsibility.

It’s about doing what you have to do to nourish your body, mind, and spirit, every day.

It’s about figuring out who you want to be, and then giving yourself what you need in order to support that version of you.

Because you have a lot of people counting on you to show up for them.

But even more importantly, mama, you deserve to show up for yourself.

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What’s your biggest frustration when it comes to self-care?

Leave a comment, I’d love your input!