How to be More Confident in 6 Simple Steps

Feeling more confident is important when you’re a mother who wants to get a lot done.

Henry Ford famously said “Whether you think you can or you can’t- you’re right.”

Your mindset really CAN mean the difference between success and failure.

And feeling more confident is an integral part of that.

But this isn’t just magical Law of Attraction, positive-thinking, woo-woo mumbo-jumbo.

There’s science to back this up.

Studies have shown that people who believe they can reach a goal are more likely to put in the effort that’s required to make it happen.

People with confidence are also more likely to try new things, rebound faster after failure, and persist when faced with obstacles.

And as an ambitious mother, obstacles are inevitable.

There are hinderances to your success around every corner.

Whether it’s a toddler tugging at our leg while you’re trying to write an email or a serious lack of energy from 32 straight months of interrupted sleep, you’ve got to believe in what you’re doing if you want to be able to succeed.

But here’s what you’ve got to realize.

Failure isn’t just a possibility. It’s what paves the road to your success.

Try as you might to avoid it, you’ve got to go through failure after failure after failure if you want to reach your goals.

And the most important thing you can learn from these failures is how to maintain your confidence.

Because when it comes down to it, confidence is a state of mental health and mental strength.

Courage is the core of confidence.

Which means that no matter how confident you are, you’re still going to feel fear.

Even the most confident people in the world feel fear.

But the difference between people who are confident and those who aren’t is that confident people move forward with their fear.

This is how to be more confident in 6 simple steps:

1. The first thing you have to do to be more confident is to manage your stress response.

Because when you don’t feel confident, you’re letting your fear drag you down.

And when you feel fear, your body goes into fight-or-flight mode.

And while the stress hormones that are released can motivate you to get to work, they can also be debilitating if they’re flooding your system on the regular.

So managing your stress response is a crucial first step if you want to be more confident.

If you want to know more about how to manage stress, check out this article and this one.

2. The next step to having more confidence is to take action.

Whatever your goal is, take action every day to move yourself one step closer to your dream.

Taking action will help you feel confident in your abilities as you move toward your goals.

And the actions you take don’t have to be big.

Just do one small thing every day.

3. And then celebrate your success.

Even if you don’t see results right away, celebrate the fact that you’re showing up.

Remember that that in and of itself is more than most people do, and you deserve to be rewarded for it!

4. Another thing that will help you feel more confident is to stand tall.

Literally, changing your posture changes your physiology and makes you feel more confident.

So the next time you’re feeling a lack of confidence, raise a fist in the air, put the other hand firmly on your hip and puff up your chest for 1 minute.

I promise you’ll feel like Superwoman after you do.

Check out this amazing TEDTalk by Amy Cuddy to learn more about power poses.

5. And while you’re at it, smile.

Scientific studies have shown that smiling into your eyes releases feel-good hormones which can increase your confidence.

So even if you don’t feel like it, if you want to feel more confident, let your face shine and your heart will follow suite.

6. Celebrate how far you’ve already come.

Now if you’re an ambitious mother like me, it means that you’ve got big visions for yourself.

And those big visions mean that you’re likely to feel really bad when you compare where you are to where you want to be.

So remember this.

You’re never going to get there.

And no, I’m not trying to hack your confidence tree down to a measly stump.

Hear me out for a sec.

Think back 5 or 10 years to the vision you had for yourself back then.

Think about the things that you were pining over, that you hoped but didn’t know that you’d be able to achieve.

Fast-forward and look at your life now.

I’m going to bet that you’re living some of those dreams in manifest reality, right now.

But because you have them, you’re setting your sites on bigger things.

And that’s ok.

In fact, that’s great.

Without big goals you’d never move forward.

But you’ve got to remember how far you’ve come.

You’ve got to enjoy what you have in front of you.

Because pretty soon after you reach your goal, another one is going to pop up in its place.

That’s what being an ambitious mother is all about.

And if you don’t appreciate what you’ve already accomplished, how much work you’ve already put in, and how far you’ve already come, then you’re not going to appreciate it when you reach your new goals, either.

The trick is not to let the fact that you don’t have everything you want right now, right in front of you, drag you down.

It’s all part of the process.

So enjoy it.

And when you those 6 things, I promise that you’ll feel more confident.

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What strategies have you used to boost your confidence?

Please share them below, because your advice might change someone’s life!