Want to know the secret to having more energy as an ambitious mama?
There’s a simple shift you can easily make.
And if you follow it through, it can have a BIG impact on your relationship with your family, your ability to run your business, and significantly improve your overall sense of well-being.
To put it bluntly, when you don’t have energy everything sucks.
You feel like you’re wading through water, with the current flowing 100 mph against you.
All you want is to be present for your kids when you’re around them, to have a semi-clean house (or at least a presentable guest-bathroom and a few clean shirts to choose from,) and to be able to work on your business *just a little bit* every day.
And instead you’re a cranky mess who can’t function without coffee and secretly wish you could go to bed when the kids do.
You’ve got all these things on your to-do list, and yet you find yourself zoning out in front of hours of TV you don’t even really care about because you’re just too tired to deal with it.
Well my friend, your TV habit is something we need to tackle on another day (because, priorities).
Because what we’re going to talk about here is the underlying reason you don’t have the energy to do all the things that you want to do.
If anything I’ve said so far in this article has resonated with you, then there’s a very good chance that you’re trying to do too much all at once.
And not just all at once one day, but all at once, all the time.
Here’s what you’ve got to remember.
You can, absolutely, have, be, and do it all.
But you can’t do it all at once.
Let’s explore this with a very basic example.
You want to be able to eat, right?
And you want to be able to sleep.
But if you try to sleep while you eat, or eat while you sleep, you won’t do either one very well.
As it turns out, there are rhythms that go beyond the daily sleeping and waking cycle.
And if we know how to harness these rhythms and cycles, they can (almost) effortlessly propel us toward success.
Here’s a breakdown of what I’m talking about.
The simplest way to explain this is to think about day vs. night.
Most people feel best when they’re awake during the day, and asleep at night.
And you’ll find that you have even more energy if you manage to wake up at just about the same time every day, and go to bed at pretty much the same time at night.
You can fudge this a little bit.
According to Chinese medicine, it’s best to go to bed earlier in the fall and winter when it gets dark earlier, and go to bed a little later in the spring and summer when the days are longer.
You can also let yourself snooze just a little bit longer in the winter around solstice when the energy is at its lowest point.
But don’t stray more than an hour in either direction.
Because just like kids, adults thrive on routine too.
If you’re a mother of young children and are shaking your head right now, wondering how in the world you’re supposed to make that happen, I hear ya.
And a little further down I’ll talk more about what to do when your kids are the reason you aren’t getting sleep.
(And no, this is not about sleep-training methods.)
But first let’s take this a step further, shall we?
Have you ever noticed that people go a little crazy when the moon is full?
The next time you hear someone complain that they didn’t sleep well, check the status of the moon.
Chances are it’s just about full.
This is all because the energy in the environment is higher when the moon is full.
Don’t believe me?
Then let’s turn to physics for evidence.
The tides are pulled in to their highest point by the full moon’s gravitational pull.
And your physical body is composed of 60% water.
Just like the ocean, you, my dear, are affected by the moon.
This means that around the full moon there’s also more energy available for you to use to get things done, whether that’s a business project, an exercise goal, or anything else.
Conversely, there’s less energy available around a new moon.
So when the new moon rolls around, you’re going to have a much harder time if you overburden yourself.
The new moon is really a time when you want to chill out.
Give yourself a break.
Watch that movie you’ve been wanting to see.
Go to a yin yoga class.
Treat yourself to a spa day.
If you try to power through the new moon instead of slowing down you’re going to use up all of your energy reserves.
Because, basically, you’re fighting against nature.
And the same goes for the seasons.
The summer’s when all the plants and animals are flirting and mingling and flauting their goods, and so should you.
Summer (and full moon times) are the perfect time to get out and mingle.
Go to a networking event.
Make new connections.
Take advantage of the buzzing that’s all around you to GET SHIZZ DONE!
(Go get it girl!)
Winter, on the other hand, is not the right time to schmooz.
In the winter you want to hibernate right along with the bears and trees.
Trust me, they’re onto something.
It might look like they’re just sleeping, but they’re actually conserving, gathering, and consolidating their energy beneath the surface.
And it’s precisely because they do this that they have so much abundant energy to draw on in the spring and summer.
So instead of pushing yourself in winter, try to get into a state of flow as much as you can.
(Check out this TED Talk if you don’t know what that is).
Find projects that inspire you and allow yourself to get lost in them.
The key takeaway here is to do activities that give you energy rather than take it away.
What these activities are is going to be different for everyone.
And it’s going to change for you over time, so keep checking in with yourself to see what lights you up.
But again, don’t push yourself when the energy around you is low.
If you’re craving an energy boost, you’ve got to let yourself rest when you need it.
Because whether you like it or not, you’re a living human.
And living humans literally go crazy if they don’t take the time to rest, (just listen to this episode of Hidden Brain if you want to know the science behind this).
Also, you work twice as hard when you ignore these lower energy times, which means that you’ve got less energy to use when you should have more.
This also applies to your menstrual cycle.
Science has shown that women who ovulate secrete pheromones that are more attractive.
So during ovulation you automatically have more of a social impact than the rest of the month, whether you realize it or not.
You might also notice that you feel more energized and frisky during ovulation.
But chances are you feel a lot less pumped in the middle of your cycle if you had a lot going on while you were bleeding.
When you’re menstruating, just like in winter and during a new moon, you really want to turn inward.
The beginning of menstruation is the perfect opportunity to reflect on what worked and didn’t work for you in the past month.
Think about what you’re ready to let go of, and set intentions for the direction that you want to go in next.
Instead of trying to finish all of your projects, let some things slide and come back to them when you have more energy.
Once again, now is not the time to push yourself.
If you let yourself rest, you’ll have twice as much energy when the energy around you picks up again.
As for you mamas with young children, you’ve got to think about this whole time in your life (yes, it might last a couple of years) as just another low energy phase.
Now is not the time to power through big projects, no matter how much you wish you could.
Honor where you’re at, and I promise you the energy will pick up again.
The more you allow yourself to slow down and go with the flow, the more energy you’ll have to draw on when the tide carries you back up.
Which it will.
But you’ve got to give yourself a chance to rest and gather up those inner resources, first.
Now I’d love to hear from you.
What makes you feel energized? What other things/people/situations zap the energy right out of you?
Leave a comment, I’d love to know!
And this is really just the beginning my friends.
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Because you deserve to have, be, and do it all.
But you need a framework to get there.