There’s no escaping mom guilt.
As ambitious mamas we feel guilty for just about everything at some point.
Mom guilt sets in when we feel like we’re not spending enough time with our kids.
Then mom guilt rears its ugly head again when we get overwhelmed because while we’re focusing on our kids we don’t enough time to work, meaning we can’t contribute as much as we’d like to the family financially.
On the other hand, mom guilt shows up sometimes because we want to work at all.
And then we feel guilty for wanting a moment to ourselves.
Not to mention the mom guilt we feel for the piles of dishes and laundry we just haven’t been able to get to.
And we really feel guilty every time we ask for help, because, for some reason we imagine that we should be able to do 3 full-time jobs (raising kids, running a household, working) all by ourselves.
Then we feel mom guilt when we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, cranky.
Basically, we feel mom guilt when we’re anything less than the most wonderful version of ourselves, right?
The list of things to feel guilty about is endless.
But the fact that you feel guilty is actually just a sign that you care.
It means that you care about the experience you’re creating for your family.
It means you care about the world that your kids are growing up in.
And it means that you yourself want to grow into the best possible version of yourself, so you can be more patient, more kind, and more impactful.
Caring is exactly what makes you so wonderful.
But it’s a problem when it turns into stress.
Stress is what happens when the space between where you are and where you want to be feels like a burden instead of an opportunity.
And as ambitious mamas, it’s our fate to teeter between these two extremes.
We want to have, be, and do it all.
But sometimes we’re so focused on where we want to be that we forget to admire the views that are right outside our window.
I’m going to be real with you.
Mom-guilt’s not going away any time soon.
Because you’re not going to stop caring.
But what you can do is prioritize what’s most important to you so you know that no matter what, you’re doing the best with what you’ve got.
And that’s different for everyone.
That’s why I’ve created the Fill Your Cup Mini Workshop to help you get started.
So if you haven’t done it already, click here to sign up (it’s totally free!)
Because the one thing that you have to realize is that you can have, be, and do it all.
But you can’t do it all at once.
Your needs ebb and flow, right along with everything else in your life.
And in order to stay healthy, balanced, fulfilled, and be successful as an ambitious mama, you’ve got to constantly evaluate -and re-evaluate- what it is you need right now so you can bring the best version of you to all you do.
And on that note, I’m going to go make myself a cup of Moroccan mint tea.
Because I’ve been in go-mode all day and a little bit of breathing room is just what I need right now.
Now I’d love to hear from you.
What do you do to take care of your own needs while you’re juggling everyone else’s?
Leave a comment, I’d love to know!